How can  I encourage my child	to care more  about others?
자녀를 격려하려면 어떻게 해야 할까요?	다른  사람을 더 많이 돌보도록.
I am going to give four thoughts	on  this.	It's  one
네 가지 생각을 말씀드리겠습니다	이것에  대해.	문제  중 하나입니다
I've thought	a  fair amount about,	as  a father of three children.
생각해 본	상당히	세  자녀의 아버지로서.
It's something	I've  thought about	as  the son of parents,
문제입니다	생각해  본	부모님의  아들로서,
but especially of a mother	who  helped me do this	in  really significant ways,
특히 어머니로	이렇게  하도록 도와 주신 분의	정말  중요한 방식으로,
and I think	my  mom's input in my life	is  part of why I'm a counselor today.
그리고 저는 생각합니다	어머니가  제 삶에 주신 영향력은	오늘날  제가 상담사가 된 한 이유입니다.
How do you help kids care	more  about others?
당신이 자녀를 돕는 방법은 무엇일까요?	자녀가  다른 사람을 더 많이 돌보도록.
First thought,	and  probably the most important	in  terms of the action step regularly,
첫 번째 생각은	아마도  가장 중요한	지속적  행동 단계의 측면에서,
is lead by example.	Share  what's going on	in  your mind,
본보기를 보이는 것입니다.	주변에서  일어나는 일을 공유하세요.	마음에서
in your life,	in  your heart.	How  are you being impacted
삶에서	마음속에서  일어나는.	당신은  어떤 영향을 미치고 있습니까?
by what's going	on  around you?	So  just giving your child a regular window
자녀에게 무슨 일이 있는지를 물어봄으로	당신의  주변에.	일반적인  정보를 알게 하는 것뿐입니다.
into "Hey, people have feelings	and  they have responses	and  they have reactions."
다음에 대한, '얘야 사람들은 감정을 가지고 있고	반응을  하고	구체적인  행동을 한단다'
So just like,	"Such  and such happened	and  that made me sad,"
그냥 자녀에게 말할 수 있습니다.	이런  저런 일들이 일어났어	그래서  그것이 나를 슬프게 했단다
or "I was really happy that..."	So  just giving children access	to  your inner world
혹은 나는 정말로 기쁘단다...	그렇게  하는 것은 자녀로 알게 하는 것입니다	당신의  마음 속의 세상을
in whatever language.		You  don't have to get all weird
어떤 식의 표현으로든지		당신이  이상해질 필요는 없습니다.
and adopt some new hyper-emotional language	if  that's not who you are.	And  you're welcome to keep using
새로운 과도하게 감정적인 언어를 사용할 필요도	그게  당신이 아니라면요.	계속  사용해도 좋습니다.
lots of emotional language	if  that is who you are.	I  just mean talk to your kids
많은 감정적 언어를	그리고  당신이 그런 사람이라면.	그저 자녀에게 말하라는 것입니다
about how you're experiencing	your  life and your world,	and  in particular, if there are places
당신이 어떻게 경험하고 있는지에 대해	당신이  당신의 삶과 세상에 대해서.	특히  어떤 여지가 있다면
where you see them not thinking about others	or  not thinking about you,	giving  them access to that,
자녀가 다른 사람에 대해 생각하지 않거나	당신에  대해 생각하지 않는	그  분야에 접근할 수 있도록 하세요.
not a manipulative way where you're like,		well,  how do you think I felt?
당신이 원하는 조작적인 방법으로는 말고요.		음,내가  어떻게 느꼈을 것 같아?
Blah, blah, blah.	There's  a way to invite children to realize,	you  know what?
어쩌고 저쩌고	아이들이  깨닫도록 하는 방법이 있습니다.	아시죠?
Other people are going to have different feelings	than  they do.	Other  people have different desires,
어떤 사람들은 다른 감정을 가질 것입니다.	다른  사람들과는	어떤  사람들은 다른 욕구를 가지고 있습니다.
different perspectives, different concerns.	So  lead by example,	sharing  your own heart,
다른 관점이나 다른 관심사도 있습니다.	따라서  모범을 보이고	자신의  마음을 공유하면서
sharing your own experience of life.		Number  two,
자신의 삶의 경험을 공유하세요.		두  번째,
you lead by example	in  reflecting on others.	Philippians  2, a fairly well-known passage,
모범을 보여주세요.	다른  사람을 돌아보면서	빌립보서  2장은 꽤 잘 알려진 구절로,
talks about how Jesus does	this  incredible, unbelievable humility with us,	and  he doesn't consider
예수께서 베푸신 방법에 대해 이야기합니다.	우리에게  이 놀라운, 믿을 수 없는 겸손을 보여주신,	그리고  그는 고려하지 않으셨습니다.
all the glories of heaven and being God	with  all the privilege of that.	He  comes down,
하늘의 모든 영광과 하나님이 되심에 대한	모든  특권을	그는  내려오셔서
he takes the nature of a servant.	He's  made in human likeness.	He  dies on a cross,
종의 본성을 취하셨습니다.	그는  사람과 같이 되셨습니다.	그는  십자가에서 죽으셨고,
and that's to his glory.		But  the phrases right before that are essentially,
그것은 그의 영광을 위한 것입니다.		하지만  바로 그 직전의 구절은 본질적으로
look to others ahead of yourself,	consider  others more important,	look  at other people.
자신보다 다른 사람을 먼저 바라보라고 합니다	다른  사람을 더 중요하게 여기라고 합니다	다른  사람을 바라보세요.
And so the more that you can lead	by  example in that,	the  more that you can be thinking about other people
그리고 여러분이 더 많이 가르칠 수 있습니다	그  안에서 모범을 보일 때	다른  사람들에 대해 더 많이 생각할 수 있고
and talking about,	"You  know, I think so-and-so might be feeling such and such.	I  think they might be hoping for...
더 많이 이야기할 수 있습니다.	"아시죠,  저는 이 사람이 여러 감정을 느낄 수도 있다고 생각해요.	그들이  바랄 수도 있을 것 같아요...
this might be hard for them...	I  think this would probably really be meaningful to them..."	Those  kinds of comments—
이게 그들에게는 어려울 수도 있어요...	이게  그들에게 정말 의미가 있을 것 같아요..."	그런  종류의 코멘트가 있고,
and if you find yourself struggling like, well,	I  never think about anybody that way,	then  that takes us to the most helpful thing you can do,
만약 그런 것이 힘들고	그런  식으로 아무도 생각해 본 적이 없다면	그렇다면  여러분이 할 수 있는 가장 도움이 되는 일은
which is begin yourself to pursue a perspective of knowing	how  is it for someone else?	How  are they?
다른 사람에게는 어떤지 아는 관점을 추구하기 시작하는 것입니다.	그것이  누군가 다른 사람들에게는 어떨까?	그들은  괜찮을까?
What are they thinking, feeling, looking for, hoping, doing,	what  is on their heart?
그들은 무엇을 생각하고, 느끼고, 찾고, 바라고, 하고 있을까?	그들의  마음속에는 무엇이 있을까?
So lead by example,	lead  by example in reflecting on others,	and  then ask your kids
그러니 모범을 보이고,	다른  사람들을 돌아보며 모범을 보이고	그런  다음 자녀들에게 물어보세요
how others might be feeling.	So  if the first aspects are sort of you driven,	where  you are the one putting the information
다른 사람들이 어떻게 느낄지.	따라서  첫 번째 측면이 일종의 당신 주도라면,	당신이  정보를 제시하는 유일한 사람으로
on the table	and  putting data out there	in  the conversation,
테이블에	대화를  주도하면서	대화를  할 때
there's also a place to invite your child to reflect.	"How  do you think so-and-so felt?"	I  remember that was the breakthrough moment for me.
자녀가 스스로 성찰하게 하는 방법도 있습니다.	"누구누구가  어떻게 느꼈을 것 같아?"	저는  그것이 저에게 돌파구가 된 순간이었다는 것을 기억합니다.
	I  was six years old.	I  was playing wiffleball in the backyard
	저는  여섯 살이었습니다.	저는  뒷마당에서 위플볼을 하고 있었습니다.
with my friend.	We  came in and I was just,	I  was kind of a jerk about it:
친구와	우리는  들어갔고 저는 그냥,	그것에  대해 약간 멍청했습니다.
"Well, I'm feeling pretty happy	because  my team won"	and  blah, blah, blah, right there
"음, 나는  꽤 기쁘네"	내가  이겼기 때문에	그리고  어쩌고 저쩌고 말했어요 바로 그 자리에서
in front of my friend.	And  I remember my mom just in that moment saying,	"How  do you think your friend felt
제 친구 앞에서.	그리고  저는 그 순간에 제 엄마의 말을 기억합니다.	친구가  어떻게 느꼈을 것 같아?" 라고 말했던 것을
when you said that?"	And  it was jarring.	I  wasn't thinking at all
"그 말을 했을 때	그리고  그것은 충격적이었습니다.	저는  전혀 생각하지 않았고,
about how my friend was feeling	at  that moment,	and  the idea that my friend was feeling something about it,
제 친구가 어떻게 느꼈는지에 대해	그  순간	제  친구가 그것에 대해 무언가를 느꼈다는 생각을
and I was pretty quick at the intuition level to go,	oh,  I don't think he would probably like that.	I  don't think I would like that.
그리고 저는 직감적으로 꽤 빨리	아,  아마 그는 그것을 좋아하지 않을 것 같아요	저도  그것을 좋아하지 않을 것 같아요
And I was convicted in the moment.	All  that to say,	there  is such a rich opportunity
그리고 저는 그 순간에 확신했습니다.	말하자면,	정말  풍부한 기회가 있습니다.
just to help a child begin	to  put themself in someone else's shoes.	That's  part of putting someone else first.
생각하도록 돕는 것에	아이가  다른 사람의 입장에 자신을 놓고	그것은  다른 사람을 먼저 생각하는 것의 일부입니다.
It's the first part of putting someone else first.		Last  thing I'll say.
다른 사람을 먼저 생각하는 것의 첫 번째 부분입니다.		마지막으로  말씀드리겠습니다.
Ask and come back to on a regular basis	how  Jesus feels about your child.	The  more that you can bring that into conversation,
정기적으로 물어보고 돌아오십시오.	예수께서  당신의 자녀에 대해 어떻게 생각하시는지	대화에  그것을 더 많이 가져올수록,
How does Jesus,	how  does the ultimate other feel about you?	What's  going on
예수님이 생각하는 것에 대해 잘 생각하게 됩니다.	궁극적으로  다른 사람은 당신에 대해 어떻게 생각하십니까?	무슨  일이 일어나고 있습니까?
in his mind and his heart?	There's  nothing like seeing the grace,	the  heart of love, of compassion, of joy, of grief over sin
그의 마음과 마음속에서	은헤에  대해 알게 되는 좋은 것은 없습니다.	사랑의  마음, 연민, 기쁨, 죄에 대한 슬픔의 마음을 보는 것만큼
because he loves you	and  does not want to see you in sin.	That  those things are there
그분은 당신을 사랑하시고	당신이  죄에 있는 것을 보고 싶어하지 않으시기 때문입니다.	그것들이  있습니다.
in his heart toward your child.	Those  are the things I would most want a child	to  be seeing through a different set of eyes.
당신의 자녀를 향한 그의 마음 속에.	그것들은  제가 아이에게 가장 바라는 것들입니다.	다른  시각으로 보기를
And the more you think,	How  would Jesus feel?	the  more you're going to be set up
그리고 당신이 더 많이 생각할수록,	예수님은  어떻게 느끼실까요?	당신은  더 많이 준비될 것입니다
to think about how other human beings feel around you,	and  to have a Christlike perspective on and toward them.
당신 주변의 다른 사람들이 어떻게 느끼는지 생각하는 일에	그들을  향해 그리스도와 같은 관점을 갖게 되는 것에.

     

How can I encourage my child to care more about others?

I am going to give four thoughts on this. It's one I've thought a fair amount about, as a father of three children. It's something I've thought about as the son of parents, but especially of a mother who helped me do this in really significant ways, and I think my mom's input in my life is part of why I'm a counselor today. How do you help kids care more about others? First thought, and probably the most important in terms of the action step regularly, is lead by example. Share what's going on in your mind, in your life, in your heart. How are you being impacted by what's going on around you? So just giving your child a regular window into "Hey, people have feelings and they have responses and they have reactions." So just like, "Such and such happened and that made me sad," or "I was really happy that..." So just giving children access to your inner world in whatever language. You don't have to get all weird and adopt some new hyper-emotional language if that's not who you are. And you're welcome to keep using lots of emotional language if that is who you are. I just mean talk to your kids about how you're experiencing your life and your world, and in particular, if there are places where you see them not thinking about others or not thinking about you, giving them access to that, not a manipulative way where you're like, well, how do you think I felt? Blah, blah, blah. There's a way to invite children to realize, you know what? Other people are going to have different feelings than they do. Other people have different desires, different perspectives, different concerns. So lead by example, sharing your own heart, sharing your own experience of life.

Number two, you lead by example in reflecting on others. Philippians 2, a fairly well-known passage, talks about how Jesus does this incredible, unbelievable humility with us, and he doesn't consider all the glories of heaven and being God with all the privilege of that. He comes down, he takes the nature of a servant. He's made in human likeness. He dies on a cross, and that's to his glory. But the phrases right before that are essentially, look to others ahead of yourself, consider others more important, look at other people. And so the more that you can lead by example in that, the more that you can be thinking about other people and talking about, "You know, I think so-and-so might be feeling such and such. I think they might be hoping for... this might be hard for them... I think this would probably really be meaningful to them..." Those kinds of comments—and if you find yourself struggling like, well, I never think about anybody that way, then that takes us to the most helpful thing you can do, which is begin yourself to pursue a perspective of knowing how is it for someone else? How are they? What are they thinking, feeling, looking for, hoping, doing, what is on their heart?

So lead by example, lead by example in reflecting on others, and then ask your kids how others might be feeling. So if the first aspects are sort of you driven, where you are the one putting the information on the table and putting data out there in the conversation, there's also a place to invite your child to reflect. "How do you think so-and-so felt?" I remember that was the breakthrough moment for me. I was six years old. I was playing wiffleball in the backyard with my friend. We came in and I was just, I was kind of a jerk about it: "Well, I'm feeling pretty happy because my team won" and blah, blah, blah, right there in front of my friend. And I remember my mom just in that moment saying, "How do you think your friend felt when you said that?" And it was jarring. I wasn't thinking at all about how my friend was feeling at that moment, and the idea that my friend was feeling something about it, and I was pretty quick at the intuition level to go, oh, I don't think he would probably like that. I don't think I would like that. And I was convicted in the moment. All that to say, there is such a rich opportunity just to help a child begin to put themself in someone else's shoes. That's part of putting someone else first. It's the first part of putting someone else first.

Last thing I'll say. Ask and come back to on a regular basis how Jesus feels about your child. The more that you can bring that into conversation, How does Jesus, how does the ultimate other feel about you? What's going on in his mind and his heart? There's nothing like seeing the grace, the heart of love, of compassion, of joy, of grief over sin because he loves you and does not want to see you in sin. That those things are there in his heart toward your child. Those are the things I would most want a child to be seeing through a different set of eyes. And the more you think, How would Jesus feel? the more you're going to be set up to think about how other human beings feel around you, and to have a Christlike perspective on and toward them.

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