Why Do You Think You Can Do Better? Esther Liu May 22, 2025
Why Do You Think You Can Do Better? Esther Liu May 22, 2025
"Why do you think you can do better?" It was an honest question posed to me by my mentor. I suppose it had the potential to be off-putting or offensive, but it wasn't. I instantly knew what he meant. And as much as the question knocked me off-balance, I knew he was onto something important.
There is a common response when it comes to facing sin and failure: "Do better." If we are discontent with our performance? Do better. Unhappy with our lack of spiritual progress? Do better. Stuck in addiction or bad habits? Always late? Disappointing your spouse? Lackluster performance at work? "I need to do better." If there are failures and shortcomings, then the most plausible formulaic response is to do better. [정형화된]
Still, the question caught me off guard. My mentor didn't nod his head and agree with my most recent iteration of "I need to do better." Instead, he confronted it in love. He captured the reality of the Christian life— change is not easy. At times, it is seemingly impossible. If it does happen, it is often slow. Very slow. We may want to change, we may resolve to do better, but I suspect many of us have experienced that it's often not that simple. Perhaps the way of wisdom is not to keep fighting reality, living in the delusion that I can do better when my track record tells me otherwise.
That doesn't mean I do not have the Spirit at work in me, growing me, empowering me —I do. It means that perhaps he does not work in the way or timing that I often prescribe for myself, [규정하다] so these resolutions to "do better" are not transpiring in the way I wanted.
But if we are unable to do better, what then?
My mentor's next words were "We will commit to praying about it."
When we make a commitment to pray for change, we acknowledge that change is hard and slow, that our current tendencies are harder to shake off than we'd like to admit, that we tend to be slow learners and growers. We acknowledge that we need help and wisdom from outside of ourselves to make progress in the ways needed to make our lives, relationships, and work flourish. We acknowledge that it will not be by sheer willpower and determination but by the very Spirit of the living God who will pave a fruitful path forward [포장하다] for us and for those we love.
When we make a commitment to pray for change, we place ourselves in the rightful posture of desperate dependence on the One who can make things right, good, and beautiful— beyond what we could even ask for or imagine with our limited resources and narrow perspectives. We are brought back to the realities of the gospel— that we cannot save ourselves, that we need a Savior, and that our Savior has come. He came to live, die, and live again so that these places of "do better" can be infused with hope despite our inability and repeatedly failed resolutions. We are brought back to the reality so beautifully captured by John Newton— it is grace that has brought us this far and grace that will lead us home.
Are there areas of your life today where you are trying to "do better"? May I ask gently, why do you think you can do better? And when resolve fails and change is hard to come by, will you commit to praying, maybe even with others?
We have a God who cares, hears, and has promised to complete the good work that he has begun in us (Phil 1:6). We have a God who isn't standing at a distance waiting for us to do better, but welcomes us to bring ourselves, as we are—not-any-better—to him. As we commit to prayer, we are unsure of how he will answer. We are not assuming an automatic success story. What we are sure of is that our prayers will be heard and received by our wise and generous Father and that there is true hope in these stuck places of our lives— not in us, but in him.
왜 더 잘할 수 있다고 생각하시나요? 에스더 리우 2025년 5월 22일
"왜 더 잘할 수 있다고 생각하시나요?" 제 멘토가 제게 던진 솔직한 질문이었습니다. 당혹스럽거나 불쾌하게 들릴 수도 있었지만, 그렇지 않았습니다. 저는 멘토의 말을 바로 알아챘습니다. 질문에 정신이 팔리긴 했지만, 멘토가 중요한 것을 알고 있다는 것을 알았습니다.
죄와 실패에 직면했을 때 흔히 하는 대답은 다음과 같습니다. "더 잘해야 합니다." 우리의 성과에 불만이 있다면? 더 잘해야 합니다. 영적인 발전이 부족한 것에 불만이 있다면? 더 잘해야 합니다. 중독이나 나쁜 습관에 빠져 있나요? 항상 늦나요? 배우자가 실망스럽나요? 직장에서의 성과가 부진하나요? "더 잘해야 합니다." 실패와 단점이 있다면 가장 그럴듯한 공식적인 대응은 더 잘하는 것입니다. [정형화된]
그래도 그 질문은 저를 당황하게 했습니다. 제 멘토는 고개를 끄덕이지 않았고 제가 최근에 했던 "더 잘해야 합니다."라는 말에 동의하지 않았습니다. 대신, 그는 사랑으로 맞서 싸웠습니다. 그는 그리스도인의 삶의 현실을 잘 표현했습니다. 변화는 쉽지 않습니다. 때로는 불가능해 보입니다. 변화가 일어난다 해도 종종 느립니다. 매우 느립니다. 우리는 변화하고 싶을 수도 있고, 더 잘하기로 결심할 수도 있지만, 저는 우리 중 많은 사람들이 그것이 종종 그렇게 간단하지 않다는 것을 경험했을 것이라고 생각합니다. 아마도 지혜로운 길은 현실과 계속 싸우고, 내 과거 실적이 그렇지 않다고 말하는데도 더 잘할 수 있다는 망상 속에 사는 것이 아닐 것입니다.
그렇다고 해서 제 안에 성령이 역사하지 않는다는 뜻은 아닙니다. 저를 성장시키고 능력을 주시는 성령이 계시지 않습니다. 아마도 성령께서 제가 종종 스스로에게 정하는 방식이나 타이밍으로 일하지 않으실지도 모릅니다. [규정하다] 따라서 "더 잘 하겠다"는 결심이 제가 원하는 방식으로 이루어지지 않고 있는 것입니다.
하지만 더 잘할 수 없다면, 그럼 어떻게 해야 할까요?
제 멘토의 다음 말씀은 "우리는 그것에 대해 기도하기로 결심할 것입니다."였습니다.
우리가 변화를 위해 기도하기로 결심할 때, 우리는 변화가 어렵고 느리다는 것을 인정합니다. 우리의 현재 경향은 우리가 인정하고 싶어 하는 것보다 더 쉽게 떨쳐낼 수 있으며, 우리는 느리게 배우고 성장하는 경향이 있다는 것을 인정합니다. 우리는 우리의 삶, 관계, 그리고 일이 번창하는 데 필요한 방식으로 진전하기 위해 외부의 도움과 지혜가 필요하다는 것을 인정합니다. 우리는 그것이 순전한 의지와 결단력으로가 아니라 살아 계신 하나님의 영으로 우리와 우리가 사랑하는 사람들을 위해 풍성한 길을 열어주실 것임을 인정합니다. [포장하다]
변화를 위해 기도하기로 결심할 때, 우리는 우리의 제한된 자원과 좁은 관점으로는 우리가 구하거나 상상할 수 있는 것 이상으로 모든 것을 옳고, 좋고, 아름답게 만들어 주실 수 있는 분께 필사적으로 의존하는 올바른 자세를 취하게 됩니다.
우리는 복음의 현실로 돌아갑니다.
우리는 스스로를 구원할 수 없으며,
구주가 필요하며,
우리의 구주가 오셨다는 사실입니다.
그분은 살고, 죽고, 다시 살아나셔서 "더 잘 하라"는 우리의 무능함과 거듭된 결의의 실패에도 불구하고, 이러한 "더 잘 하라"는 자리에 희망이 가득할 수 있도록 오셨습니다.
우리는 존 뉴턴이 아름답게 포착한 현실로 돌아갑니다.
우리를 여기까지 인도해 주신 것은 은혜이고, 우리를 본향으로 인도해 주실 것도 은혜입니다.
오늘 당신의 삶에서 "더 잘하려고" 노력하는 부분이 있습니까? 부드럽게 질문드려도 될까요? 왜 당신은 더 잘할 수 있다고 생각하십니까? 그리고 결심이 무너지고 변화를 찾기 어려울 때, 다른 사람들과 함께라도 기도에 전념하시겠습니까?
우리에게는 돌보시고, 들으시고, 우리 안에서 시작하신 선한 일을 완성하시겠다고 약속하신 하나님이 계십니다(빌립보서 1:6). 우리에게는 멀리 서서 우리가 더 잘하기를 기다리시는 하나님이 아니라, 우리 자신을 있는 그대로, 더 나은 모습으로 그분께 가져오도록 환영하시는 하나님이 계십니다. 기도에 전념할 때, 우리는 하나님께서 어떻게 응답하실지 확신하지 못합니다. 우리는 자동적으로 성공할 것이라고 생각하는 것이 아닙니다. 우리가 확신하는 것은 우리의 기도가 지혜롭고 관대한 아버지께 들으시고 받아들여질 것이라는 것입니다. 그리고 우리 삶의 이 막힌 곳에서도 진정한 소망이 있다는 것입니다. 우리 안에가 아니라, 그분 안에 있습니다.
"Why do you think you can do better?" It was an honest question posed to me by my mentor. I suppose it had the potential to be off-putting or offensive, but it wasn't. I instantly knew what he meant. And as much as the question knocked me off-balance, I knew he was onto something important.
There is a common response when it comes to facing sin and failure: "Do better." If we are discontent with our performance? Do better. Unhappy with our lack of spiritual progress? Do better. Stuck in addiction or bad habits? Always late? Disappointing your spouse? Lackluster performance at work? "I need to do better." If there are failures and shortcomings, then the most plausible formulaic response is to do better.
Still, the question caught me off guard. My mentor didn't nod his head and agree with my most recent iteration of "I need to do better." Instead, he confronted it in love. He captured the reality of the Christian life—change is not easy. At times, it is seemingly impossible. If it does happen, it is often slow. Very slow. We may want to change, we may resolve to do better, but I suspect many of us have experienced that it's often not that simple. Perhaps the way of wisdom is not to keep fighting reality, living in the delusion that I can do better when my track record tells me otherwise.
That doesn't mean I do not have the Spirit at work in me, growing me, empowering me—I do. It means that perhaps he does not work in the way or timing that I often prescribe for myself, so these resolutions to "do better" are not transpiring in the way I wanted.
But if we are unable to do better, what then?
My mentor's next words were "We will commit to praying about it."
When we make a commitment to pray for change, we acknowledge that change is hard and slow, that our current tendencies are harder to shake off than we'd like to admit, that we tend to be slow learners and growers. We acknowledge that we need help and wisdom from outside of ourselves to make progress in the ways needed to make our lives, relationships, and work flourish. We acknowledge that it will not be by sheer willpower and determination but by the very Spirit of the living God who will pave a fruitful path forward for us and for those we love.
When we make a commitment to pray for change, we place ourselves in the rightful posture of desperate dependence on the One who can make things right, good, and beautiful—beyond what we could even ask for or imagine with our limited resources and narrow perspectives. We are brought back to the realities of the gospel—that we cannot save ourselves, that we need a Savior, and that our Savior has come. He came to live, die, and live again so that these places of "do better" can be infused with hope despite our inability and repeatedly failed resolutions. We are brought back to the reality so beautifully captured by John Newton—it is grace that has brought us this far and grace that will lead us home.
Are there areas of your life today where you are trying to "do better"? May I ask gently, why do you think you can do better? And when resolve fails and change is hard to come by, will you commit to praying, maybe even with others?
We have a God who cares, hears, and has promised to complete the good work that he has begun in us (Phil 1:6). We have a God who isn't standing at a distance waiting for us to do better, but welcomes us to bring ourselves, as we are—not-any-better—to him. As we commit to prayer, we are unsure of how he will answer. We are not assuming an automatic success story. What we are sure of is that our prayers will be heard and received by our wise and generous Father and that there is true hope in these stuck places of our lives—not in us, but in him.
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